Sunday, July 25, 2010

Any tips/advice on helping a 3 year old understand a split home?

My almost 3 year old is starting to pull away from her father. She only sees him every other weekend as it is... but now when she's there she barely wants anything to do with him, telling her father that he's not my husband. Her father isn't a bad guy and I feel horrible that our daughter doesn't seem to want to be with him anymore. She loves my husband but does not call him dad, I refused to allow that to happen, since her father is in her life. Any tips on explaining this situation to her so that she maybe understands it a bit better?Any tips/advice on helping a 3 year old understand a split home?
Actually, there are many children's books available on this subject. Instead of trying to explain it to her. Maybe it would help to read her stories about children who experience the same situations she does. Ask the sales people at Barnes and Noble, Borders, or Books A Million what is available on the subject. Also, check out the library.Any tips/advice on helping a 3 year old understand a split home?
I think that if her father doesn't have quality time with her she will pull away from him. She needs to see him more. She can understand that though daddy doesn't leave it us, he is still her dad. Your husband can be another dad to her too. Don't push your husband away from her because he deserves to be in her life too. besides, there is nothing wrong with lots of people loving her. tell her that. All these people want to be with her because they love her and she is very very lucky.
Is there a way that he can see her more often. I was a nanny for a 4 year-old who's parents are divorced and she spent every other weekend with her dad plus 1 night everyweek, and Mondays every other week.It just sounds like she does need to spend more time with him.
There no easy way to explain to her. Right now the only she probably know is daddy is gone and she mad at him. Give her some time and she'll come around. Do your best and don't force her to be around him. She will when she's ready. Make sure you two don't fight in front of her either or discuss anything in front of her or it may make it worse. My parents did that and it took me 24 yrs to have any kind of relationship with either of my parents. Just be patience.

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